About Me

I am a priest of the Archdiocese of Tororo, Uganda since my ordination on July 4, 1998. I am currently assigned as Professor of Theology and formator at Notre Dame Seminary in the Archdiocese of New Orleans, Louisiana.

Sunday, November 2, 2014

How Christians deal with death: Weeping, Hoping, Praying Together

Homily for All Souls – November 2, 2014

Reading 1 WIS 3:1-9; Responsorial Psalm PS 23:1-3A, 3B-4, 5, 6; Reading 2 ROM 6:3-9; Gospel JN 6:37-40

Introduction


In this world nothing is certain except death and taxes, so said Benjamin Franklin.  What then are we to do about these horrid things, death and taxes?

When it comes to taxes, Jesus has very little to say.  As we heard in the gospel a few weeks ago, all he said is: “Pay to Caesar what belongs to Caesar and to God what belongs to God.”  Luckily for us, when it comes to death, Jesus has so much to teach us, so that we are equipped to deal with death, unavoidable death.

Scripture and Theology


On this “All Souls” Day, when as Catholics we focus our attention on those who have died, I would us to reflect on what Jesus teaches us about death.  I would like to reflect on three specific words: weeping, hoping and sharing.

And so, first, the Christian way is to take death seriously and accept it.
·        While the world tends to use euphemisms to describe death, words like “passing away,” “kicking the bucket” or “breathing one’s last,” the Bible simply speaks of death and dying.
·        While the world tends to sanitize death and cover up all its messiness, pain and suffering, the Church tackles death headlong. 
·        While the world tends to try to avoid death at all costs or to take it on, but on one’s own terms, Christians respect death as the entrance into life with God, leaving its timing to him.

One of the passages in the Bible that first comes to mind when I think about death is the verse where it says: “Jesus wept” (Jn. 11:35).  Jesus wept for his friend Lazarus, not so much because Lazarus had died, but because Jesus saw the pain of his sisters Martha and Mary and all those who loved him.  I know that our society says “real men do not weep,” but if Jesus wept, that is good enough for me.  I must confess that I often weep at the death of someone.  Like Jesus I weep at the great suffering that I see in the bereaved that have lost a loved one.  A dear friend of mine recently lost her grandmother and as I was talking to her she said: “I know my grandma was in pain, but I still wanted her around.”

But the Christian does not weep in despair; the Christian weeps with hope.  And that is the second point of our reflection – hope after death.  The Christian hopes that although death is painful both for the deceased and the bereaved, with death, life is changed, not ended. We hope that the promise of Jesus will be fulfilled: “that everyone who sees the Son and believes in him may have eternal life” and when he says: “and I shall raise him on the last day.”

For Christians, the words death and resurrection go together all the time, not only for Jesus, but for us his followers as well.  We heard St. Paul tell the Romans that just as we have been baptised in the death of the Lord, so shall we also rise in his resurrection.  “If, then, we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him” (Rm. 6: 8).  We believe the words of the book of Wisdom, that: “The souls of the just are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them.”

Yes, Christians weep at death; Christians hope after death.  The third thing that Christians do is weep and hope together, in mutual support and prayer.  When the dying person is still on this side of death, the Christian practice is to support the dying person not only with the physical care of medicine and food, but also the psychological care of family and friends and most important of all, the spiritual care of grace and blessings.  Just think of the many Church-run medical facilities and medical missionaries in the world, including the areas currently suffering with ebola.  Just think of the many priests and lay ministers who attend to the spiritual needs of the sick.

When the person crosses over to the other side, we continue to support them with prayer.  We pray for the dead in funeral Masses, Masses for the dead, Mass intentions and all other types of prayers.  Besides, we set aside this day, All Souls day, to pray for all the faithful departed, that they might be received by the Lord in his mercy.  It is not a coincidence that All Saints day and All Souls day follow each other in the calendar.  They are twinned, as it were, so that the whole body of Christ, the communion of saints which we profess in the creed, can show its love and care for all members of the Church.  We the pilgrim Church, who are still on pilgrimage on this side of death, join with the triumphant Church, who have made it to heaven, to pray for those who are halfway there in purgatory – the suffering Church.

Christian Life


Unfortunately, this Christian way of weeping, hoping and communion in death is not always accepted.  The contrast between the non-Christian and Christian approach to death has been played out in the last few weeks in the media.  You may have heard about a young lady, Brittany, who has terminal cancer and planned to end her life today, as her way of dealing with this terrible and tragic illness.  Her approach to death has been glorified and glamourized in the media.

But you may have not heard in the media of another person who also has terminal cancer, and perhaps as much pain and suffering, but one who chose another path, the Christian way.  This is Philip Johnson, a Catholic seminarian from the Diocese of Raleigh, North Carolina, whose response summarizes the Catholic approach to death.  I will just read a few of his letter, words which are so powerful because they come from someone staring death in the face.

First, he acknowledges his own suffering and fear of death.  He says:

After years of terrible headaches and misdiagnosis, my Grade III brain cancer (Anaplastic Astrocytoma) proved to be inoperable due to its location.  . . . I was beginning an exciting career as a naval officer with my entire life ahead of me.  I had so many hopes and dreams, and in an instant they all seemed to be crushed.  

But even more frightening for him is what his last days will look like.

I will gradually lose control of my bodily functions at a young age, from paralysis to incontinence, and it is very likely that my mental faculties will also disappear and lead to confusion and hallucinations before my death.

But thanks to his faith, Philip has hope.  This is what he says:

This [prospect of suffering and death] terrifies me, but it does not make me any less of a person.  My life means something to me, to God, and to my family and friends, and barring a miraculous recovery, it will continue to mean something long after I am paralyzed in a hospice bed.  My family and friends love me for who I am, not just for the personality traits that will slowly slip away if this tumor progresses and takes my life.

Philip concludes his letter by acknowledging the support he continues to receive from his family, friends and the Church and the support he gives to Brittany.

I will continue to pray for Brittany as she deals with her illness, as I know exactly what she is going through. I still get sad. I still cry. I still beg God to show me His will through all of this suffering and to allow me to be His priest if it be His will, but I know that I am not alone in my suffering.  I have my family, my friends, and the support of the entire universal Church.  I have walked in Brittany’s shoes, but I have never had to walk alone. Such is the beauty of the Church, our families, and the prayerful support that we give to one another.

Conclusion



Yes, death and taxes are inevitable.  But Jesus has shown us a way of approaching death, that of others and our own.  As we deal with the death of beloved ones, and as we prepare for our own death, let us acknowledge the sorrow of death with hope, giving and receiving the support of one another, in the communion of saints.


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